Ruminations of a BUSY to Balanced Mum
Have you seen our new definition of BUSY? It’s kinda out there – but I really feel like I’m not the only one challenging the concept of ‘busy’ and whether ‘balance’ is an achievable reality.
I’ve read a number of articles recently – all with the ‘busy’ or ‘balance’ theme. Martha Beck’s article Making Time for Nothing was inspirational (you HAVE to read it – it gives you great insight into the importance of making time for nothing and suggestions on what you can do with any spare time you have – to make room for nothing). In it Martha says:
Generally speaking, a packed schedule is seen as the sign of a happenin’ life; empty time is for losers. We don’t say things like “That day won’t work for me, I’ve got a lot of empty time scheduled” or “Listen, Bob, I need to cancel. Some empty time just came up.” Part of the reason is our culture: According to the Western perspective, filling every moment with “value-added” activities is a sign of virtue and significance.
Mia Freedman from Mamamia wrote a great article titled Not everyone wants work/life Balance. Mia notes “Sometimes the pressure to be balanced can itself become a burden. I know what it’s like to feel overwhelmed – it’s my default state – but at certain times in your life, balance is an impossibility.”
I tend to agree with her.
Take the chaos of earlier this year for us. Within a period of seven weeks we went to Fiji for a holiday, all got a tummy bug, came home to immediately put our house on the market, sold the house, moved house, put Mr 6 in hospital a week after the move to get his tonsils out and then returned nine days later with complications – all the while juggling work and our own crumbling sanity.
Balance? What balance!
I could have done with some of what Martha calls ’empty time’ – without a care in the world whether anyone thought I was a loser or not!
I have written numerous posts about reducing the ‘busy’ and moving toward the ‘balance’ – The Joy of Nothing Planned and Finding My Inner Zen – In 10 Minutes a Day to name a few. My theory is that if you want balance – which I’m happy to say I do! – you will strive for it. Whether that means finding ’empty time’ or reducing the overwhelm, you will need to focus on it. Make it a conscious choice. Take responsibility for it.
And if you’re like me you will keep searching for it regardless of what’s going on in your life – because ultimately balance is what will make you feel alive, together, connected.
So call me a loser. Tell me it can’t be done. But I will continue to strive for ‘balance’.
And maybe, just maybe, help you along the way.
Unless you’ve got other ideas?
Until next time, happy organising!
About Helen Butler
Helen is an AAPO Accredited Expert Professional Organiser who is passionate about helping Mums get organised in their home, schedule and life. She has developed the Mum Organising Styles, a personality test to help busy Mums get organised in a way that works for them and their family, and discovered the Eight Traits of an Organised Mum.